Stop allowing people to drain you and stop defending the situation by saying they are “friends” or “family”.
In every relationship it’s a two-way street.
You don’t give with the mindset of wanting something in return but let’s be honest, a lot of times that’s the root of the destruction of relationships.
No, I’m not talking about the exchange of material things.
I’m talking about the simple things like just having someone there to listen when you’ve had a rough day.
If you’re in a situation where every time you’re about to meet up with someone you have to mentally prepare yourself then cut the cord of that.
I wish I had this mindset sooner in life, oh believe me.
I would have been way less stressed.
People that think the idea of a friendship or family relationship entails constantly taking are the exact people you do not need to be around.
I’ve been on the receiving end of many “friendships” like that and trust me, if you don’t pick up on what’s really happening soon enough that situation can destroy you.
Yep that seems like such a bad word doesn’t it?
Well it’s not in circumstances like these.
Selfish is exactly how you need to be especially if you’ve voiced your concerns to the leaching party and they refuse to attempt to understand or accept how you feel.
Be selfish with your happiness, speak up on how you feel, decide for yourself the people you wish to be around and stop letting people choose that for you.
You owe that to yourself.
Sink or swim is what it’s down to
Already in the pond so if you swim what do you swim to?
Maybe to the empty hands that you think is waiting for you
Illusion at its best don’t let the heavy whispers fool you
Deep breaths with every trickle of tears
As you float on your back it runs down to your ear
Above water under pressure and no one can hear the sounds
The whimpering the gasps your fear of going down
All the while being consistently meek
Crying is often mistaken for a sign of the weak
The fear is great but your power is stronger
The pond you thought where there exists no longer
You’re telling lies if you say you’re happy with your life then proceed to go around making other people feel bad for no reason. If you go out of your way to lower people’s self esteem then you really need to take a second to ask yourself what makes you do that and also what would you gain by doing such acts. You see, a lot of people go around on social media leaving unnecessary hate comments and are the first to say “I’m not jealous, my life is great!”. But is it really?
A happy person don’t get a sense of self worth from bringing others down, especially others that they may not even know personally. I believe that genuinely happy people are so content within themselves that all their time and energy goes into self improvement and positivity not hate. Don’t give me wrong, we all have emotions and are entitled to feel things. However if negative feelings get stirred up by the thought or sight of other people succeeding then you may have a problem.
You’ve probably heard the following many times before but that doesn’t make it any less true just because you may be tired of hearing it.
“Hurt people, hurt people.”
“Misery loves company.”
It’s so easy to mask things with anger instead of just accepting the true feelings that you’re experiencing and taking the steps towards working on them. I think anytime someone starts feeling these things, they should really take the time to evaluate their current life situation and work on the things they aren’t happy with.
So many people have little to none yet they are able to share genuine smiles with people that are more fortunate than them.
However more and more each day we come across people that have so much yet still have these feelings and at that point I’m convinced its not just about money or material things. It’s simply a bitterness towards people that seem happy.
On that note take some time to self care and to focus on things that make you happy. The more time you spend working on yourself the less time you have to spread hate and at which point you will soon realize how pointless it’s been to spew this hate all along.
If you’re constantly brought back to a place does it mean you haven’t truly forgiven someone?
If its brought to you in dreams in parables, does that count?
Multiple people in the form of one person,
Using the face of somone that weren’t even involved
I like to think that you’ve forgiven someone when you no longer feel like you hate them
So why the reacurring thoughts?
Did you not heal?
Did you not forgive?
Maybe you’re over reacting and it was only just a dream
Maybe there’s more to it and all isn’t what it seem
I remember those low times
Those alone times
Those silent cries
I remember wanting to be good enough
Wanting those hugs tight enough
Protection well enough
I remember wanting to be apart of things
Normal childhood things
The nice things you see in films
I remember what was stolen from me
The pressure that was put on me
The start of events that ruined me
I remember the help I didn’t get
To calm the thoughts that made me upset
Dealing with it by myself
I remember blaming myself through it all
Putting up a major wall
Wanting to end it all
We go back and forth with feelings
Trying to find a common ground
What we settle on is almost always at my expense
It’s draining but you made me believe it’s just my way of life
Nothing about this is healthy
You sabotage every inkling of happiness I attempt to gather
Yes you have been hurt by many people time and time again
Hurt people, hurt people
Give it a chance won’t you?
Everyone is not the same and everyone isn’t out to ruin you
It’s all you want, I know
You need something to hold on to
That lets you know the happiness you feel isn’t just too good to be true
It’s real, it’s very real
So I say this to you, “let me go because I refuse to be your victim any longer”
“Yes you, you will no longer drag me down” I say to myself
When the world gets cold
the words I write will keep me warm
and if one day you decide that you’ll be gone
they would bring me comfort until I can move on