You’re Toxic? Bye!

Stop allowing people to drain you and stop defending the situation by saying they are  “friends” or “family”.
In every relationship it’s a two-way street.
You don’t give with the mindset of wanting something in return but let’s be honest, a lot of times that’s the root of the destruction of relationships.
No, I’m not talking about the exchange of material things.
I’m talking about the simple things like just having someone there to listen when you’ve had a rough day.

If you’re in a situation where every time you’re about to meet up with someone you have to mentally prepare yourself then cut the cord of that.
I wish I had this mindset sooner in life, oh believe me.
I would have been way less stressed.
People that think the idea of a friendship or family relationship entails constantly taking are the exact people you do not need to be around.
I’ve been on the receiving end of many “friendships” like that and trust me, if you don’t pick up on what’s really happening soon enough that situation can destroy you.

“Selfish”
Yep that seems like such a bad word doesn’t it?
Well it’s not in circumstances like these.
Selfish is exactly how you need to be especially if you’ve voiced your concerns to the leaching party and they refuse to attempt to understand or accept how you feel.
Be selfish with your happiness, speak up on how you feel, decide for yourself the people you wish to be around and stop letting people choose that for you.
You owe that to yourself.

 

CassFrotastic x

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You’re Not Happy.

You’re telling lies if you say you’re happy with your life then proceed to go around making other people feel bad for no reason. If you go out of your way to lower people’s self esteem then you really need to take a second to ask yourself what makes you do that and also what would you gain by doing such acts. You see, a lot of people go around on social media leaving unnecessary hate comments and are the first to say “I’m not jealous, my life is great!”. But is it really?

A happy person don’t get a sense of self worth from bringing others down, especially others that they may not even know personally. I believe that genuinely happy people are so content within themselves that all their time and energy goes into self improvement and positivity not hate. Don’t give me wrong, we all have emotions and are entitled to feel things. However if negative feelings get stirred up by the thought or sight of other people succeeding then you may have a problem.

 

You’ve probably heard the following many times before but that doesn’t make it any less true just because you may be tired of hearing it.

 

“Hurt people, hurt people.”

“Misery loves company.”

 

It’s so easy to mask things with anger instead of just accepting the true feelings that you’re experiencing and taking the steps towards working on them. I think anytime someone starts feeling these things, they should really take the time to evaluate their current life situation and work on the things they aren’t happy with.

So many people have little to none yet they are able to share genuine smiles with people that are more fortunate than them.

However more and more each day we come across people that have so much yet still have these feelings and at that point I’m convinced its not just about money or material things. It’s simply a bitterness towards people that seem happy.

On that note take some time to self care and to focus on things that make you happy. The more time you spend working on yourself the less time you have to spread hate and at which point you will soon realize how pointless it’s been to spew this hate all along.

 

Cass x

Hinder

Constantly

We go back and forth with feelings

Trying to find a common ground

However

What we settle on is almost always at my expense

It’s draining but you made me believe it’s just my way of life

Nothing about this is healthy

You sabotage every inkling of happiness I attempt to gather

Why?

Yes you have been hurt by many people time and time again

Yes

Hurt people, hurt people

Give it a chance won’t you?

Everyone is not the same and everyone isn’t out to ruin you

Reassurance

It’s all you want, I know

You need something to hold on to

Something

That lets you know the happiness you feel isn’t just too good to be true

It’s real, it’s very real

So I say this to you, “let me go because I refuse to be your victim any longer”

“Yes you, you will no longer drag me down” I say to myself

 

Written by
CassFrotastic x

Short Story: Theresa

Theresa was caught in a web and she didn’t mind, smiling and gazing out to nowhere as her feet swung back and forth grazing the river waters. As she basked in her own company that lonely bridge became her friend. Thoughts flooded her mind, her heart raced, she was excited.

On her journey home she would have a jolly pep in her step as she hummed her favourite songs, the chores she hated doing so much was now fun to do as her mind was off somewhere else. Dancing as she swept the floors her mind will wander even more, you would talk to her and she wouldn’t hear a word as she glides through the house her voice can be heard. Theresa would be invited to so many events but she’d always tell her friends “I’m so sorry but my plans must be kept”. They’d missed her so much as she no longer hung out with them, they would always ask “what has happened to my friend?”. But Theresa had been too caught up to care, as her happiness was too good to share, she was in love.

She felt as if it was the first time she had ever known happiness, she didn’t know any better. She dropped everything she’s ever had interest in and lost herself the more she fell for him. It was as if her life depended on it, depended on this, depended on him.

One day Theresa received a call and she didn’t enjoy any part of it at all. She was no longer the girl he once knew, adventurous, independent and filled with understanding, but lately all her actions came off so demanding. He tried to talk it out but she was off in her own world, in love with love forgetting a relationship has two roles. She was in love with the idea and left him far behind and as the words came out his mouth to end it, all she could do was cry. He tried to see her that day to prevent it from happening this way but she had gone to the place where her heart would start to race. She was at the river, wetting her feet. He didn’t even know about that place and he waited for hours just to see her face, no sign of Theresa the relationship pulse grew weaker.

After the break up she would always take long showers, crying out her eyes for hours and hours. As she got herself together her phone went off, she rushed for it thinking about the love she’d lost. As she slid the screen and held it to her ear, sun rays beamed onto her face and it was then and there…..that she woke up, it was morning. Theresa sat on her bed with shock plastered on her face, everything felt so real to her even the phone to her face. Theresa fell asleep with the phone in her hand while texting her friends and staying up late watching movies ‘on-demand’. She then thought about her dream and how she felt in that life, she then promised herself that she won’t make that same mistake twice. She would go on to find her ‘happy’ and carry on with her life and knowing better to not do so at the expense of other people’s feelings. As she prepared to start her day she looked in the mirror and told herself, “I want this feeling, this is what I want for myself but I want it to come from me and nobody else”.

Written by:

CassFrotastic x