One of the worst things that can happen to you is having your time wasted.
Time wasted on “potential things” when you could have been pursuing something solid. Time wasted clinging onto a faulty relationship wishing for that love to be returned. Time wasted waiting on a call back for a job when you could be sending out your CV to many others. You know you function better as a creative in an organized space yet you continue to procrastinate and wallow in an untidy room talking about “writer’s block” or “creative block“. No! Clean your room/office etc and get to work.
I can go on and on but I won’t. The point is, don’t allow people to waste your time and don’t allow yourself to waste your time either. Yes I said don’t allow yourself. Too often we find our self blaming other people when a lot of times we are the cause of our very own demises. Stop, take a breath, take accountability and focus on what you can improve and make the situation better.
I’m no expert but here are some things I keep in mind when I’m about to go after something:
- Always have a plan – Without a plan you’re going in blindly.
- Always have a plan B – Always have a backup in case your initial plan falls apart.
- Remember failure is an opportunity to know what to do and what not to do the next time around.
- Success is a journey not a destination – there is always room to grow and improve.
- Do what you’re passionate about and not what someone else is into – only you can live your life and wasting your life trying to be someone else will only leave you with regrets.
- In everything you do, weigh the pros and cons.
- Your stumbles don’t define you, your willingness does. Don’t give up.
Hope you guys enjoyed this post, thank you for sticking around for so long I appreciate everyone of you, take care and God bless. 🙂
Stop allowing people to drain you and stop defending the situation by saying they are “friends” or “family”.
In every relationship it’s a two-way street.
You don’t give with the mindset of wanting something in return but let’s be honest, a lot of times that’s the root of the destruction of relationships.
No, I’m not talking about the exchange of material things.
I’m talking about the simple things like just having someone there to listen when you’ve had a rough day.
If you’re in a situation where every time you’re about to meet up with someone you have to mentally prepare yourself then cut the cord of that.
I wish I had this mindset sooner in life, oh believe me.
I would have been way less stressed.
People that think the idea of a friendship or family relationship entails constantly taking are the exact people you do not need to be around.
I’ve been on the receiving end of many “friendships” like that and trust me, if you don’t pick up on what’s really happening soon enough that situation can destroy you.
Yep that seems like such a bad word doesn’t it?
Well it’s not in circumstances like these.
Selfish is exactly how you need to be especially if you’ve voiced your concerns to the leaching party and they refuse to attempt to understand or accept how you feel.
Be selfish with your happiness, speak up on how you feel, decide for yourself the people you wish to be around and stop letting people choose that for you.
You owe that to yourself.
If you’re constantly brought back to a place does it mean you haven’t truly forgiven someone?
If its brought to you in dreams in parables, does that count?
Multiple people in the form of one person,
Using the face of somone that weren’t even involved
I like to think that you’ve forgiven someone when you no longer feel like you hate them
So why the reacurring thoughts?
Did you not heal?
Did you not forgive?
Maybe you’re over reacting and it was only just a dream
Maybe there’s more to it and all isn’t what it seem
I remember those low times
Those alone times
Those silent cries
I remember wanting to be good enough
Wanting those hugs tight enough
Protection well enough
I remember wanting to be apart of things
Normal childhood things
The nice things you see in films
I remember what was stolen from me
The pressure that was put on me
The start of events that ruined me
I remember the help I didn’t get
To calm the thoughts that made me upset
Dealing with it by myself
I remember blaming myself through it all
Putting up a major wall
Wanting to end it all
We go back and forth with feelings
Trying to find a common ground
What we settle on is almost always at my expense
It’s draining but you made me believe it’s just my way of life
Nothing about this is healthy
You sabotage every inkling of happiness I attempt to gather
Yes you have been hurt by many people time and time again
Hurt people, hurt people
Give it a chance won’t you?
Everyone is not the same and everyone isn’t out to ruin you
It’s all you want, I know
You need something to hold on to
That lets you know the happiness you feel isn’t just too good to be true
It’s real, it’s very real
So I say this to you, “let me go because I refuse to be your victim any longer”
“Yes you, you will no longer drag me down” I say to myself